5 Things To Note When Attending A Funeral In Singapore
Knowing proper etiquettes helps you to be respectful to the deceased and the family during your visit to a funeral ceremony in Singapore. Singapore is a multi-religious and multi-cultural country, and so funeral etiquettes often vary depending on the religion of the departed person. But the following etiquettes are the most common and important ones, you must follow, regardless of religious beliefs, when attending a funeral in Singapore.
Be Respectful to the Deceased
You may bow in front of the deceased’s altar before the coffin and offer a quiet prayer. This funeral etiquette is universally accepted, regardless of religions. Some Chinese families burn joss sticks for the parted loved ones. A family member will accompany you to the altar and give you joss sticks so that you can pay respect to the deceased.
Don’t Wear Bright Attire
Sombre shades, including black, dark blue, or white are appropriate for wake visitors. You can choose less sombre shades for attending the funeral of the elderly who has grandchildren or great-grandchildren. This means the deceased has led a healthy and happy life. A wake is still a solemn affair. So you are encouraged to avoid bright hues. Also, do not wear sloppy or skimpy clothes as it could be disrespectful to the deceased and their family. The appropriate colour of funeral attire varies across the different religions, for example, Christian funeral attire as compared to Buddhist funeral service in Singapore, the one major takeaway is, dress appropriately and be respectful to the family.
Don’t Ask About the Causes of Death
A funeral is meant for the mourning family and friends to gather and remember the person who has parted. You can express sympathy to the family for their loss if you don’t know the deceased well. If you were familiar with the person, comfort the family by recalling positive characteristics and happy memories of the person. When approaching the bereaving family, be polite with your language. Quell your curiosity and don’t ask the family about the circumstances surrounding the death. Avoid gossiping with other visitors. Simply offer your condolences with sincerity and politely.
Make A Condolence Contribution
You may offer a cash contribution so that the suffering family can subsidise the cost of the funeral. You can contribute as much money as you want. It depends on your relationship with the family and the deceased. Offer your contribution after paying respect and prayers for the deceased.
Take the Red String
When visiting a funeral in Singapore, you will see a paper plate with melon seeds, red peanuts, and red threads on tables. These strings are believed to ward off any bad luck you may have picked up at the funeral. Take one and dispose of it before entering your home.